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Domestic violence – make a safety plan

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Domestic violence is the physical, emotional, sexual or mental abuse of one person by another within close, intimate or family relationships. On average, 1 in 3 women globally have been physically or sexually assaulted by a former or current partner. Approximately 40% of women killed globally as a direct result of domestic violence. On average, 6% of men suffer sever domestic abuse, and 88,000 men have experienced severe abuse from their partner at some point in their life. It can occur across all cultures, race, ethnicity, genders, religion and age.

Domestic violence is about the dominant person gaining control over their victim and they do this by isolating the victim from their friends and family. As a result, a person may feel that they are dependent on their abuser. Abuse may not always be severe from the beginning. It can start off very minor, however in most cases, over time it can become more frequent and as a result it can become more severe and violent. Domestic violence is not a one off event, rather it is a process. Domestic violence is not seen as a crime in many parts of the world.

People who experience violence face many barriers when they try to leave the relationship. One such barrier includes a fear for safety and not knowing what the abuser will do when they find out their victim has left. Members of ethnic minority communities who are dependent on their spouse’s immigration visa may feel as though they cannot leave due to the fact that their spouse could report them to immigration at any time and have them deported. Some people may experience a lack of social support as they have left their entire social support system in their home country, which makes them emotionally, socially, psychologically and financially more reliant on their spouse. There is also the added language barrier which people from other ethnic backgrounds face and as a result limits their ability to seek help.

There is a wide range of support available for those who find themselves in an abusive situation. If a person needs to leave an abusive relationship, there are a number of refuge centre’s located around Dublin. Each of these provide emergency accommodation for women and children. Members of ethnic minority communities can now apply for independent immigration status, where they will no longer be dependent on their spouse’s immigration status. Men and women, depending on their situation, can apply for social welfare payments if they decide to leave an abusive relationship. Organisations such as Women’s Aid, Safe Ireland and Amen were set up to inform and help men and women who suffer from domestic violence. Cairde has a number of multi-lingual community workers and advocates who are here to provide you with the help and support you need if you find yourself in an abusive situation.

Cairde’s Domestic violence leaflet



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